Monday, December 14, 2009
Make every impression, first and otherwise, count towards building a strong personal brand.
Here a couple of tips for getting started.
Step One: Decide your brand. Just like you would think about what it takes to make a good first impression, think the same way for your brand. The only real difference is that a personal brand needs to be more "personable" so be sure to sprinkle your personality into you makings of your brand.
Step Two: Look for what makes you unique. Brands are powerful because they are associated with something that only you can offer. Use your brand to focus on conveying a feeling, an attitude, the essence of what you have to offer.
Step Three: Be consistent in delivering whatever message you choose. If you want brand buzz then everyone you meet needs to arrive at the same conclusion about your personal brand.
It sounds simple but its not exactly a no brainer because building a brand takes time and even longer if you forget that your first impression helps create your lasting impression and eventually, your personal brand.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
We've all heard "there's no such thing as a dumb question but that's not true.
When it comes to fashion, there is such a thing as a dumb question. Today on twitter, the trending topic was #dumbquestions and I had to jump right in. Here is my twitter stream about some dumb fashion questions people ask along with my fashionably honest answers.
#dumbquestions re fashion Does what I wear really matter?
FASHIONABLE ANSWER: Leave the house in something f*cked up, then ask me again! If you really think it doesn't matter then you either have Bill Gates type money, live on another planet or don't want to increase your income.
#dumbquestions re fashion Does this make me look fat?
BEST FASHIONABLE ANSWER: No, when is the baby due? Oh sorry, I thought you were pregnant! Come on! You know when something makes you look fat, the problem is usually that you just want to keep it.
#dumbquestions re fashion Does this fit?
BEST FASHIONABLE ANSWER: Do you mean right now ? It probably fit when you bought it 5 years about but since then, you've gained weight ... so NO!
#dumbquestions re fashion Are pink dress shirts gay?
FASHIONABLE ANSWER: Two men sleeping together makes you gay, not a shirt. So, if you don't start off GAY... it won't make you GAY! However, if you are gay, it does have a tendency to makes you gayer.
#dumbquestions re fashion Can I wear this to work?
FASHIONABLE ANSWER: Are you a hooker? Seriously, think about the type of job you have then decide whether it's appropriate for work.
#dumbquestions re fashion Can I still wear this?
FASHIONABLE ANSWER: No and you shoulda never worn it in the first place! Really, if you have to ask, probably not and the main reason is that you'll be second guessing yourself all day.
#dumbquestions re fashion Is this shirt see through?
ANSWER: If you can see through it... so can I!
#dumbquestions re fashion Black goes with everything, right?
ANSWER: Just because you wear it a lot doesn't mean it goes with everything. So ... NO!
I hope these answers help. And if you have a question, just ask. Dumb questions accepted.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
I took a break to set up my website and installed a blog using my host's software - it sucked. No categories, no tags, no links and no FUN.
I also tried out a few new things in my business and on my podcast and guest what??? No fun - at least no fun for me. So I'm back to my cryptic ass blog and ya know what? I don't care, I missed ya!
One day, I'll graduate to wordpress but today ain't the day. I'll make it a New Year's resolution for 2010.
Enough about me, how are you?
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Recently, I went out of my way to help a stranger, he got some great information that could help him reposition his image. He listened, took notes and asked questions. I was delighted to help and feeling really good about it. But as the conversation winded down, I was expecting a "thank you" but all I got was "cool". I felt jipped!
When did "cool" become a substitute for "thank you"? Saying the words Thank you, should never be casualized to "cool". It just sounds unappreciative.
Here's the bottom line, people are busy; busy at work, busy at home, busy pursuing their interest and developing new ones. What's important to you may only be important to YOU. There are very few times throughout the day when someone has the time to do something "extra" BUT if they do, a real heartfelt thank you applies.
If a friend, colleague or even a stranger gives you 1 minute of their life, doing something that benefits you, let them know AND say the words - Thank you!
By the way, Thank you for reading this blog post.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
You’ve got to admit, there’s something strange about speaking to a person who has this banana shaped device stuck in their ear.
Aside from the obvious piece of plastic and the streaming blue light radiating from the side of their head, I’m mostly unsettled about the message it sends. Is the thought of missing a call that bothersome? Is the person in front of you unworthy of your undivided attention?
Well, that's the assumed message. So I ask, why create a self imposed communication barrier? Life is hard enough. Don’t make it harder, take the banana out of your ear.
Sunday, June 7, 2009
I’m amazed at how many people ask "does it really matter what I wear?" My first thought is "this person isn't very ambitious. My second thought is "he's making room for the next guy."
Please folks, if you're part of my inner circle, remove those words from your vocabulary. Instead, tell yourself that What you wear reflects who you are, how you feel and what you know. It goes well beyond a suit and a tie. It’s an outward statement of the inner working of your mind. It can’t be an afterthought, it should be your forethought.
Here's are the three things I'd like you to do right away.
1) Get rid of everything that is ripped, torn, broken or doesn't fit.
2) Get rid of everything that doesn't look good on you. You know what I'm talking about!
3) Decide to never leave the house in clothes that make you look like you don't care about yourself.
And remember, not paying attention to what you wear is like carry a sign that says I Don't Care! But, you really need to - if you want to stay ahead of the pack.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Summer is almost here and with warm weather come – FEET!
Now, most of us know not to wear flip flops in the office but in some offices, like mine, its okay to bare toes with a few precautionary steps.
Everybody take notice so your feet don’t cripple your career!
· Pedicures are a must, heels should be pumiced and toenails buffed.
· Wear sandals that fit; heels shouldn’t hang over the back and toes should grip the sidewalk.
· Hairy toes and legs aren't women sexy . . . or pretty!
· And, if you “smell feet” or someone says they “smell feet”, handle it immediately.
Feet are a touchy subject and very, very personal. And, quite frankly, most people don’t have pretty feet. If you are one of them, don’t expose them to the world. You don’t want to be remembered for your little piggies.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
The way I see it, I went through labor, and now, I'd like my family to return the favor and give me some labor!
Actually, its tradition in my home to celebrate Mother's day with peace, quiet and most importantly, cooperation. It started a long time ago, when our daughter was little, my husband asked me "what would you like for Mother's Day?" Much to my surprise, my answer was "to be left alone!"
That's probably not the most "motherly" response, but you don't know my family. They're good people, but they're high maintenance.
My life is sandwiched in between a vegetarian (and I'm a meat eater) and a daughter who is BAJP (Black American Jewish Princess). The most they can do for me is Leave me Alone!
Nowadays, Mother's Day has evolved from Leave me Alone day to Personal Service day and I'm as happy as can be. For Mother's Day, I make a list of things I'd like done and they do it!
I encourage all mothers to make Mother's Day their own personal service day!
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Make US happy and put on a little Happy! Rather than bitch and moan, here are the facts.
1) People think more highly of you if you appear that you take care of yourself.
2) Women who wear make up are treated better than those who don't.
3) No one is really a "natural" beauty, most women look better with a little happy on their face.
Plus and this is strictly my opinion, it makes me wonder if you are so "natural" that you don't take care of other things and you know what I mean.
Am I the only one who wants to around slapping people with make up?
Monday, April 27, 2009
Of course, I want you to listen to Tailored Edges but here's the skinny - don't bring a lot of shit. Here are my top travel tips.
1) Think about where you're traveling and what the "colors" are for that climate because walking around in all black when everyone else is brightly lit, is depressing.
2) Make sure you pack a couple pairs of shoes and a pair of bathroom/pool flip flops. If you saw the show I saw on 60 minutes you'd never walk barefoot in a hotel.
3) You need more tops than bottoms. Pack a couple of tops (shirts, polos etc) for two changes a day. You can cut back on the bottoms, because just like real life you can wear bottoms a few times before they start to walk on their own.
4) Have a color plan. Ideally all tops you pack should work well with all bottoms so you don't need to bring as much.
5) Please take you good stuff. Don't schlep your crappy clothes. You're on vacation take a few thrill pieces and whoop it up.
6) This has little to do with packing BUT you should dress the way you want to arrive. In other words, don't go the airport all jacked up. You never know who you will meet and you'll get better service!
Want the rest of my tips? Listen to my broadcast on Tailored Edges with Robin Walker http://blogtalkradio.com/tailorededges and Get an Edge on Packing for your Trip.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
I made up the phrase, but basically a twitter twat is a female who criticizes other peoples tweet and broadcasts her opinion as fact. Nothing wrong with that but it is a minor annoyance. Here's why.
Twitter is free speech. To criticize others for their tweets is contrary to whole ideal of twitter, even @ev, the founder said "tweet whatever you like."
Twitter is a diverse. The entire concept is to connect, hear and share just about anything you can imagine including diversity in thought.
Twitter is by choice. The follow button and remove are available to everyone. You can even block.
I could go on but there's no point because most of us get it. Just be warned, much like real life there will always be at least "one" twat in the room.
If the Twitter Twat is spraying at you, be strong but not foolish. It never hurts to double check yourself because most feedback is good. But not all feedback is worthy of change. In my case, I write to hundreds of thousands of readers every month in national publications and a handful of cherished people on twitter. I am not you, your will need to make own decision. Decide what's important to you, know that yo can't please everyone, and do what you need to do. Just beware that every action has a consequence.
In this case, my consequence was a minor distraction with a Twitter Twat, that made my decision easily. I thought to myself "fuck it" and I tweeted back and thought I'd post my twitter experience on my blog - tadah!
After you've made your decision, handle it gently, swiftly and move and try to be brief but it may take a couple of tweets for YOU to get your full message across.
Unpleasant Tweets? Remember, its hard to communicate in person and even harder to do it in 140 characters or less.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
As a stylist people often ask me what I think about what someone else is wearing, usually some innocent person who is minding their own business. I typically try not to reply, simply because I don't walk around mentally redressing strangers. And when I don't reply, usually the other person weighs in with their opinion and its harsh.
Folks, here's a bit of advice - when you point one finger at someone three are pointed back at you. Before you crack the whip on strangers, coworkers or friends, ask yourself if your time would be better spent Stirring your Own Kool Aid?
Thursday, March 5, 2009
As winter wraps up, things start to happen to our clothes, things like sweaters snags. Don't get unraveled about it, just resist the temptation to pull it because if you pull it . . . it will grow.
Here’s what you should do.
1) Take the sweater off and turn it inside out.
2) Use a safety pin to push the yarn back into the fabric.
3) Gently stretch the area around the snag to tighten the other yarns surrounding it. This will help hold it in place.
If you can still see the sweater snag, it’s time to take it to your tailor. If you're one of the few people who actually saved the additional yarn that came with your sweater, take that too. Now, you know what it’s for!
Monday, February 16, 2009
I wish I could say something sweet, like "just wear something clean that looks nice", but THAT advice is useless and it doesn't work. In part, because other guys will be there in something clean that looks nice too. Same applies to wearing the typical suit; they'll be others dressed in a typical suit, maybe even the same suit. None of that advice is enough to win the room.
The whole point behind Dress for Success is to stand out for all the right reasons, to look credible, competent and ready to claim your success. That's hard to do if you dress like today's just another ordinary day (translate - I'm just another ordinary person).
Do you see yourself as an ordinary person of a successful person, an asset? I would hope the later, because that's the way you want to dress!
My advice: First and foremost, Dress for Success requires that 1) you have a goal and 2) decide what does success mean to you. Is it a new job, a promotion, leadership, conquering the world or a woman?
Only you can decide your goal, my job is to help you dress it!
In the absence of a goal you are not getting Dressed for Success - you are simply getting dressed.
Call me. We need to talk! Or you could tune into Tailored Edges with Robin Walker for a weekly dose on men's fashion advice. http://blogtalkradio.comn/tailorededges
Friday, February 13, 2009
I'm going to let you in on a secret, Valentines day and all holidays, are for women - that includes Father's day too. Women, expect to be acknowledged on all major holidays. It's not cause we're greedy, it's because we think we provide "joy" all year long. All we really want are a few days where some of that joy gets acknowledged and returned.
Here's a few more suggestions on how to be a good Valentine.
1) Know that we also want a gift. It could be chocolate, it could be flowers, doesn't really matter - we're expecting something.
2) Don't give us or Valentine's day present early. It's not the same, we need something to open the day. If you give it too us early, it won't count for Valentine's day.
3) Have a plan for dinner. Please don't ask us what we'd like to do, chances are we told you already and you didn't hear it. You're better off already having a plan, we'll either go along with it or change it. Either way, you're in the clear - you had a plan.
Finally, don't try to make us go to bed early because you think you're gonna get lucky. Nobody goes to bed at 8:30 and if you push it, you might mess it up for yourself!
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Gideon Grunfeld shows his clients to set their fees, ask for and get paid what they are worth!
If you've ever wondered if you're charging the right fee for the services you provide, or if you losing business because your fees are too low for the value you provide? Or, possibly even over shooting your market because you're not showing why you are "worth the money?"
My biggest "take aways" are:
- Show your value
- Don't base your fees on your competitors
- and why sometimes its not practical to set fees based on time.
In a brief but candid conversation Gideon Grunfeld walks listeners through a number of steps to help you decide how to set your fees and how to get the fee you want!
Subscribe to my RSS feed so that you don't miss Part Two of Gideon Grunfeld's Gold on Tailored Edges with Robin Walker.
Gideon Grunfeld can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Monday, February 9, 2009
From employee shenanigans to cheating spouses beware, Mr. Sting, one of my favorite private investigators has the reach and expertise to bust up the party - complete with indisputable proof.
You'll never see him because Mr. Sting, a nationally acclaimed private investigator, is an expert in undercover surveillance. But rest assured, once hired, he sees what you need to see and that's what matters most!
Mr. Sting shared true life stories and tips to help us decide if its time to hire a private investigator. In the nutshell, if you think you need one - you probably do!
What surprised me most was 1) how most people send out the red flag and 2) why a picture may tell a thousand words but doesn't tell the whole story.
Listen to the entire broadcast at http://blogtalkradio.com/tailorededges before you make a move, because as Mr. Sting explains, most people wait too late to call and that effects the evidence.
After interviewing Mr. Sting, the next time I need a dick, he's going to be my first choice. Check out Mr. Sting at http://stinginvestigations.com.
Find out what to do and how to tell if you're spouse is "not into you" and "into" somebody else!
Friday, February 6, 2009
I love to skate. Here's a picture of my skating ring at my lake house. We make one every year, except for that one year when the ice wasn't frozen enough and our neighbor's truck went through the ice!
This picture was taken from my kitchen window.
Thursday, February 5, 2009
I was so disappointed, I marched right into the store, set it on the counter and said "this dick doesn't work."
Here's the quick version of the whole story, along with what I'd like to think is a learning point. With the economy being tight, every purchase counts, I need to know my money is being well spent, even if its on a sex toy. The packaging said "hours of fun" and I only got about 1 hour before it broke, seems to me that I was lied to.
I spent an hour in the store selecting my toys, not to mention going out in the cold and fighting the elements. I wanted a high performance toy and what I got was a broken dick. In a mood, I demanded my husband take me back to the store. He did but, of course, he stayed in the car (typical.)
The clerk was kind but perplexed and everybody around the register thought I was nuts but admired my balls. Bottom line, I got a new dick, an apology and a coupon for my next purchase.
The moral of the story is this: Just because you bought it, doesn't mean you have to keep it if it's not working for you. Same rule applies to clothing. Don't put good money after bad, if you get it home and it's not working for you - take it back.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Jacket sleeves, mostly suit jackets, should be shorten to show about 1/2 of cuff.
Now, take a look at the difference.
See what I mean? Showing a bit of cuff, sometimes referred to as "showing linen" adds detail and depth to your appearance.
Next are men's ties. Ties should touch the top of your belt. Why? Because it's the most professional and polished look and it's the general standard. It's okay to wear it shorter as a style statement but remember everyone else will think its too short.
Men's dress shirts worn casually and untucked are often too long because they were intended to stay in your pants. Casual shirts are generally cut shorter so they don't look like dresses when they are untucked. So, where casual shirts if you want to let it hang out:)
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Men's fashion for Spring 2009 features colors ranging from shades of orange to purple, green and red. As a custom tailored shirt girl, I enjoy a respectable balance of color with a classic style.
While others are going around brightly lit, I say let's keep it simple and a little soft - no pun intended. Sometimes, too much color is blinding and takes attention away from the man wearing the clothes.
Other noteworthy mentions for Men's Spring trends include: cardigans, vests, dinner jackets and loosely constructed but well tailored suits.
Your thoughts? How would you do a colored this spring?
Monday, February 2, 2009
Every man is different but there are some tried and true wardrobe basics that will never fail you. Here are a few of them:
A Sport Jacket and not the typical blue blazer, That's way too basic to attract clients and new business.
Trousers not just pants. We talked about the difference and why you need both.
Dress shirts, casual shirts and polos. How to pick them and how to wear them. Yes, I said "how to" wear them to add some depth to your wardrobe!
Listen to the entire broadcast for another perspective on style and what should be in a man's closet!
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Most of us never get a second chance to to catch the ball and that's why there are some things we just have to get right - the first time!
What I admire the most is that when the ball sorta slipped through, it could have been the end of him but this guy made one heck of a recovery and that doesn't happen often in life or business. Your first impression can easily be your last impression.
I'm happy to see that Holmes got his second chance and went down with vigor and helped score a Super Bowl championship for his team. How's that for conviction?
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Its not that I’m against fur, its personal choice for women. Some women look incredibly glamorous, elegant and warm in their beavers. But when I see a man in a fur coat, my first thought is MAN UP, it’s not that DAMN COLD!
There’s just something about a fur coat on any man that says I’m full of myself. Plus, it goes against the laws of attraction. On some subconscious level, I still expect a man to hunt and gather. Seeing a man walk down the street in a fur makes me think he’s a little full of himself and that goes against the laws of attraction.
That being said, if you’re really into beaver and want to wear man fur, consider a shearling, you get the warmth and feel of fur without the flash.
Monday, January 26, 2009
Being a top man on google takes some work and know how. This week on Tailored Edges I interviewed Jim Cobb, the "google man". Jim gave listeners expert advice on how to build your personal brand on google. Not only did he tell us what to include on our personal websites, he told listeners how to improve and influence your google ranking so that you, my dear fellows, can all be top men!
Here are a couple of his top tips for branding yourself on google:
1) Be the master of your domain, own you own site and make sure it has your name in it and not just your product of company name.
2) Share information about yourself, your hobbies, values, personal interest and give people an opportunity to get to know you.
3) Subscribe to services that get good google ranking. Jim list them during the broadcast.
Check on the entire broadcast at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/tailorededges for Jim Cobb's top tip for branding you and your business on google.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Recently, I conducted my own unofficial men’s grooming survey to find out how many man were actually manscaping. The results, 7 out of 10 have participated in the men’s grooming activity of trimming le bush.
There were two main catalysts for this daring activity: boredom and curiosity. Boredom, you're home sitting and there’s nothing good on the tv. Runner up was curiosity, you see something on tv about women waxing their bush or perhaps heard the rumor that being clean shaven heightens your sensitivity, so as you lather up in the shower you get to thinking about how yours would look and so on.
Either way, you wind up less hairy and liking it. Woman to man, we like the look too.
I encourage all of you to at least try it once, however, as your go-to girl for style, I would be
remiss to not mention a few details if you are thinking about trying this at home.
1) Don't do it drunk or on a dare.
2) Avoid using the kitchen shears. It's rude and gross.
3) Don't go too close. You're not trying to go prepubescent, just trim.
4) Don't try to trim anything you can't see. No explanation needed.
5) Avoid the home wax kit. Wax is messy,sticking and not for amateurs. If you really get into it go visit a men's spa for the real deal.
In closing, manscaping is more common than you think so go ahead and give it a whack, you might like it.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Many admire ML King for his world changing work for on civil rights, I admire him for that and his style. He is my personal icon for the image of a leader.
Today on Tailored Edges, we talked about the qualities of a leader and how to dress for the message you want to send. Using two great men, Obama and ML King, the broadcast wasn’t about their political or social beliefs. Instead it was about how their appearance and style positioned them to be heard among the masses.
Listen to the entire broadcast at www.blogtalkradio.com/tailorededges then decide if you are dressing in the style of a leader.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Step One: Get rid of anything that makes you look fat! You know when something makes you look fat, so stop holding onto it just cause you own it.
Step Two: Wear clothes that create more vertical lines thank horizontal ones. Say bah bye to those rugby shirts with the big stripe across the chest.
Step Three: Wear neckwear and colors around your face, the right tie and collar draws attention upward and away from your body.
See how easy it can be and no gym required!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
I am completely grossed out. I was listening to one of my favorite blog talk radio shows - The Daily Mix to get my daily dose of reality and that’s when I heard the news. A slew of restaurants in one of my favorite cities, Las Vegas, were sited for having fecal matter. Not mouse fecal matter but real human. Now, of course, we know its not just in Vegas, that can happen and does happen everywhere!
How does it happen? Easy, despite the signs that are posted in every restaurant that any moron can read - employers are choosing to not wash their hands!
Come on people, if you go to the bathroom and touch anything - wash your hands. If I wanted a Dirty Sanchez, I’d order one.
Apparently, those signs in the restroom don’t mean a thing. Please, I beg all restaurant owners, drill your employees on personal hygiene. Add “immediate termination if you do not wash your hands” to your employee handbook and sign. The not washing the hands thing is not cool - anywhere.
I am grossed out. I can’t even breath, I’m so upset. And the 3 most common reasons people don’t wash their hands: laziness, fear of germs on the facet or they think since they only touched their own package, so its okay. Go figure!
For those of you who refuse to wash your hands, whether you work at a restaurant or just like to network and shake hands, think about how you would feel if someone gave you a Dirty Sanchez and you didn’t ask for one! Not so pretty, right?
Saturday, January 3, 2009
So instead of thinking that you need a "new you" perhaps now is a good time to just get back in touch with your "best you" and present that in 2009.
I do admit an unfair advantage. In my clients closets, I see how people think (or thought) about themselves based on what's in their closet. And quite frankly, most of my clients are so much more interesting than their wardrobes. They don't need a "new you" the problem is they forgot how interesting they are.
If you really want to make a New Year's resolution, how about just being your "best you?"
You can jumpstart 2009 by joining me on www.blogtalkradio.com/tailorededges every Monday for advice and strategies to discovering, living and dressing your personal best.
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Your comments and questions are welcomed here.